7 Habits of Highly Effective Students Workshop, 27 October 2018, C17 DK2 FS
This is my third time attending 7 Habits Workshop. 1 session as a participant, and another two as a facilitator. When Hj Hamisan put up this slide, and shared his view, it was a slap on my face. Big time. I took a long sigh and dive into my emotional state (without anyone noticed of course).
The night before, I was harsh to my daughter while assisting her with her homework. Not that I forgot to my put myself in her shoes, but I think I easily fly off my handle. It was me who didn’t have enough Sabr (patience). It was me who was “temporarily forgot” that my kid is only 8 years old, it is almost impossible to kids at her age to stay still for quite a long time at the desk.
In our life, we often want to be understood by others, but lack of effort to understand others. How many times in our life, we jump to the conclusion without seeking the explanation at the first place? I remember one story, told by my fellow friend who is also a lecturer.
She went to the class, and saw at the whiteboard, a “memo” written by the student from the previous lecture session, not her student tho! Most probably the previous lecture was cancelled without prior notice because the memo said “DO YOU THINK IT IS EASIER FOR US TO COME TO THE EARLIEST CLASS AT 8 AM JUST TO WAIT FOR YOU, AND YOU DIDN’T SHOW UP!” To make it worse, the memo was written with PERMANENT MARKER. At that time, whatsapp was not in the era yet.
It was quite frustrated to see that kind of behavior from university students. You never know the actual situation. There could be 1001 possibilities. Car breakdown, emergency, traffic jam due to accident, the list goes on. If only they have enough patience and accept the fact that once in a while, unfortunate things happened everywhere.
I can’t imagine if "that lecturer" read that memo, with the fact that she/he was really unintentionally cancelling the class.
To me, the key to understanding is the ability to LISTEN and be PATIENT. I hope we can be a better person as we grow up. This reflection is first and foremost to me and myself.
~SMP